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Get Your Girlfriend To Come Back In Three Steps

To get your girlfriend to come back you have to set up the proper conditions. Most guys want to get straight to the resolution, thinking if they apologize their girlfriend will come back. It doesn't usually work that way. You need to set up the situation where your girlfriend is persuaded to give the relationship another chance.

Here's the basic steps of every reconciliation:

Step 1 - Eliminate Tension

Does she hate you right now? Probably not hate, but she definitely doesn't want to talk about getting back together which means any attempt will be met with hostility. You can't reconcile at this point. There's too much anger, so you need to eliminate all that tension.

The opening letter in the Magic of Making Up was designed to accomplish this task in a very simple message. You aren't going to apologize and beg for another chance. You just want to convey the message that you don't want to fight anymore. It gets rid of all the hostility which sets up the next step.

Step 2 - Re-establish Communication

I'm guessing you aren't on the daily phone call list right now. She's most likely deleting all your emails, and ignoring every single call you make. But it's worse than you think. Every single message you send makes her more and more upset. What's the problem?

It's not the message itself that upsets her. It's her belief that she knows what the message is about, before even hearing it that makes her upset. Right now she has a negative expectation with every single message you send her. You need to change that pattern. Get her out of that mind-set, so that she's more receptive to communication.

Step 3 - Transition Back To A Couple

This is probably the most misunderstood step. Here's what usually happens... You get rid of the hostility, and start talking again. It's very friendly almost like she's flirting with you again. Then you do something stupid.

You tell her how much you love her and can't live without her. It scares the crap out of her, and she pushes you away and you're back to square one. Your job is to create the environment to help HER make the decision. If you follow the right steps, she will decide to come back to the relationship. When you pressure her, it removes her sense of control so she wants more distance.

A step-by-step plan to get your girlfriend to come back is found in the full version of the Magic Of Making Up.

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