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How To Compromise While Arguing

Most couples don't know how to compromise while arguing, leading to never ending squabbles that creates constant tension. Finding a solution is never easy, but if you remain constructive there is always a solution.

Below are some tips on relationship problem solving and reaching a long lasting compromise.

Is there a hidden issue?

This is something you need to analyze on your own before you approach your spouse with a compromise. Sometimes the severity of the issue is obvious to everyone, but other times couples will engage in week long arguments about what appears to be a superficial problem.

Have you ever had a three day argument over a trash can? Who does that, right? It happens to couples more than you might realize, but why?

It's because there are hidden problems in every relationship that aren't discussed openly. The anger and frustration is there, but the source of that tension isn't always conveyed clearly.

So when you're upset about how your in-laws are treating you, often you'll choose a different topic to express that frustration. And that's where the trash can comes in.

So is the problem, REALLY the problem or is there a deeper issue that needs to be addressed? When you find the true source, you can move forward with finding a compromise.

Finding a compromise

A compromise is an acceptable solution to both parties. It doesn't mean one person concedes and the other person gets everything they want. You will both need to sacrifice in order to reach an agreement.

Try to be as objective as possible, and avoid letting your emotions dictate common sense. Just because your partner seems "happier" than you doesn't mean the compromise isn't fair.

Something you absolutely need to avoid is giving in and accepting whatever is suggested just to end the disagreement. While this may make you feel better in the short term, you are likely to resent your spouse in the coming weeks and months.

Continue to offer varying solutions, even if they are continuously turned down. If you continue a constructive dialogue and consider as many solution as possible you are much more likely to solve the problem as opposed to digging your heels in and demanding the solution be a certain way.

When it's over, let it be over

The hardest aspect of an argument isn't always finding a compromise. The more difficult aspect is often accepting the compromise and moving on. Do you find yourself waiting and hoping for the moment you can say "I told you so"?

While it's a common sentiment, it can be a very destructive attitude. Ask yourself if it's more important to have a healthy relationship or have your significant other accept how right you always are.

Often, the fact that you need your partner to validate your "rightness" creates the constant arguing. They get to a point where they're arguing because they want to prove you wrong.

It becomes a non-stop cycle of arguing, frustration and resentment.

If you're on the receiving end of constant "told you so's", it needs to be brought out into the open how much it bothers you. It may lead to more temporary friction, but it will create a more healthy long term line of communication.

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