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My Girlfriend Left Me For Her Ex

My girlfriend left me for her ex. I want her back but I'm depressed and don't know what to do.

Unfortunately, most guys understand what you're going through even if they don't like to admit or talk about it. It happens. You start to question your worth as a boyfriend, a friend, and yes even to the most basic level as a human being.

That's how bad it feels.

What did I do wrong? Why wasn't I good enough? What does he have that I don't? Sounds familiar, right.

The first thing you have to do is find a way to cope with what just happened to you. Most guys want to do the manly thing and shrug it off and pretend it doesn't hurt. But it does. It may not bring you to tears, but your girl just ended your relationship and went with another guy.

It hurts your ego. So you may be strong enough to avoid the tears but your ego is hurting and you need to let that heal. If you aren't playing with a level head you're going to do or say something to her that makes it worse.

One way to get past the grief is to rationalize what just happened. If you're sad, let that play out first. If you need to cry, then lock yourself in the bathroom and get it over with.

When you're done with that it's time to rationalize your emotions and put things into perspective. Emotions, depression, and sadness have a tendency to warp your view of reality and you need to deal with that.

Don't try to convince yourself that it isn't there, it's one of the proven stages of grief. Trust me, it's there.

So step one is to confront that sadness. Let it play out. Let yourself feel sorry for yourself for one day. Then it's time to move on to the next stage, to put the pieces back together so you can begin rebuilding your relationship.

Feeling angry and betrayed is also part of the process. It's an emotion that needs to be confronted. Talk yourself through it. If you have a buddy you'd trust your darkest secrets with, tell everything to him. Every ounce of it.

Just get it out of your subconscious and into reality so you can begin rationalizing the problem.

Once you're emotionally ready, you can begin the process of reconciliation. Trying to approach your girlfriend while you're still hurting emotionally rarely goes as planned. You won't be thinking straight, and will say the wrong things and basically just make it worse.

A full step by step reconciliation plan can be found here.

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